Textually Frustrated: My struggles communicating over the phone

Have you ever met someone and feel the vibes and then start to doubt the entire thing once you start texting? I met someone on Sunday at the bar. Another “tell your friends to get with my friends, and we can be friends” vibe going on.

The convo was good, but I was a few drinks in so I may be over-impressed by myself. We bounced to 1-2 other spots after, which is usually a good sign. There’s a date scheduled later this week but admittedly, I’m a lil anxious because texting is generally pretty hit or miss w/ me.

I can’t text my way out of a brown paper bag. Historically, it’s always been a crapshot whether the texting leads to a date. Women have and will always give you a number and then curve you, but I just don’t have the juice over the phone either way.

I feel like I do better in person and anecdotally, I remember getting ghosted/left on read on a dating app, and bumping into each her at the club randomly and hitting it off. Something about the way I’m communicating over text needs work. I’ll check on YouTube/Reddit and keep an eye out for a dog-eared copy of Cosmo for a “10 ways not to be dry as shit over text” listicle or something.

If things aren’t going well, I’m likely the first to check out. It’s ironic because my textiquette has declined since I started redirected my days towards studying and have my phone on DnD for most of the work-week (OAN, I thought I just coined textiquette but a quick Google searXNG search tells me I’m an unoriginal hack).

I find myself trying to avoid being thirsty and without coming across as disinterested/distant. I usually end up in the later more than the former, but the former makes me fall back to the latter as well.

It’s possible I’m overthinking the entire scenario. I will play the hand that God dealt me and let the cards fall where they may. Not my first rodeo so I’m anxious butalso content w/ the experience if she ends up flaking 🤷🏾‍♂️ {{ bluesky(post_id=3lkp5wm6uic2k }}